Comments on: Parenting Other People’s Kids http://modernhomemodernbaby.com/parenting-other-peoples-kids/ Cool Stuff for Cool Moms Sat, 11 Feb 2012 18:27:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Jennifer http://modernhomemodernbaby.com/parenting-other-peoples-kids/comment-page-1/#comment-3649 Jennifer Wed, 01 Feb 2012 20:58:36 +0000 http://modernhomemodernbaby.com/?p=3865#comment-3649 I step in if I feel like I need to, and explain to the parent whether they were there or not, that I hope I have not overstepped, but this is what happened, and this is what I said. I wouldn't tell them anything that I wouldn't tell my own children. And when the child is behaving inappropriately toward one of my own children, I remind the child, that I would never allow my children to treat them in this way. When someone steps in and parents my children, I want to know about it. I may or may not agree, but I have never told them to mind their own business, because, especially with friends and family raising their kids in a "community" they obviously felt it was their business. I will, however discuss the situation with my child, and talk about whether or not their behavior was appropriate, and why it bothered the other parent (usually my mother). I step in if I feel like I need to, and explain to the parent whether they were there or not, that I hope I have not overstepped, but this is what happened, and this is what I said. I wouldn’t tell them anything that I wouldn’t tell my own children. And when the child is behaving inappropriately toward one of my own children, I remind the child, that I would never allow my children to treat them in this way.
When someone steps in and parents my children, I want to know about it. I may or may not agree, but I have never told them to mind their own business, because, especially with friends and family raising their kids in a “community” they obviously felt it was their business. I will, however discuss the situation with my child, and talk about whether or not their behavior was appropriate, and why it bothered the other parent (usually my mother).

]]> By: Kate http://modernhomemodernbaby.com/parenting-other-peoples-kids/comment-page-1/#comment-546 Kate Wed, 28 Jul 2010 21:33:17 +0000 http://modernhomemodernbaby.com/?p=3865#comment-546 It's a sticky wicket, isn't it! I'm glad yo stepped in and said something. While I'm not a fan of helicopter parenting, I believe looking out for your kid is one of a parent's myriad responsibilities. And, keeping a bully away from a 1 year old is being responsible. You go girl! It’s a sticky wicket, isn’t it! I’m glad yo stepped in and said something. While I’m not a fan of helicopter parenting, I believe looking out for your kid is one of a parent’s myriad responsibilities. And, keeping a bully away from a 1 year old is being responsible. You go girl!

]]> By: Jessi http://modernhomemodernbaby.com/parenting-other-peoples-kids/comment-page-1/#comment-542 Jessi Tue, 27 Jul 2010 21:44:00 +0000 http://modernhomemodernbaby.com/?p=3865#comment-542 Relating a similar situation. I was at the airport with my one-year-old a few weeks back. SeaTac has a large play area. I put Emma down out of the way of the other kids, near some fun mirrors on the wall. After a few minutes a girl a few months older than her (fully walking) came over and pushed Emma down from standing, then pusher her again, THEN pulled her hair. At this point I stood up, walked over, and in a firm voice told her "NO. If your parent won't tell you no, I will." She ran off and left Emma alone. Mom eventually came over and asked 'what was she doing'. I explained that she pushed Emma over and pulled her hair. Her response? "Well, I couldn't see her, I just heard someone yelling at MY child." Yeah. It was all my fault that you didn't have your bully child in sight and she bullied my child and I corrected her. Uh huh. If another child is doing something wrong that interferes with my child, I will 'parent' them. If it's not affecting my child, then, generally I'll leave be (to me it's up to whoever's child they ARE interfering with to step in), unless it's something that actually truly endangers that other child (playing with sharp objects, etc.). Relating a similar situation.

I was at the airport with my one-year-old a few weeks back. SeaTac has a large play area. I put Emma down out of the way of the other kids, near some fun mirrors on the wall.

After a few minutes a girl a few months older than her (fully walking) came over and pushed Emma down from standing, then pusher her again, THEN pulled her hair. At this point I stood up, walked over, and in a firm voice told her “NO. If your parent won’t tell you no, I will.” She ran off and left Emma alone.

Mom eventually came over and asked ‘what was she doing’. I explained that she pushed Emma over and pulled her hair. Her response? “Well, I couldn’t see her, I just heard someone yelling at MY child.”

Yeah. It was all my fault that you didn’t have your bully child in sight and she bullied my child and I corrected her.

Uh huh.

If another child is doing something wrong that interferes with my child, I will ‘parent’ them. If it’s not affecting my child, then, generally I’ll leave be (to me it’s up to whoever’s child they ARE interfering with to step in), unless it’s something that actually truly endangers that other child (playing with sharp objects, etc.).

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