Eventually you will have had your final child and pregnancy will be a condition you won’t be experiencing again without the appearance of an angel, a star, and three wise men. At that point, if you are like most moms, looking in the mirror can incite the same feeling of nausea that the dissection lab in high school biology did.

Years of nursing has relocated your breasts to an area where you vaguely remember your waist being.  Your once tightly toned tummy may spill over your jeans while your thighs are dented with hail damage, orange peel skin, cellulite, or whatever you want to call it.

You are in desperate need of a mommy makeover, at least according to the media. This is a procedure, in which a plastic surgeon deftly returns your breasts to their proper upright position, tucks your trembley tummy into itself to reveal your abdominal muscles again and recreates smooth, lithe thighs in one fell swoop. It’s almost like having a fairy godmother.

There is discomfort of course – after all, you have had surgery. During your recovery time, you will probably feel a bit like a Mack truck ran over you – not as bad as six hours of back labor but worse than those sharp new baby teeth testing out your nipple while nursing. You’ll have some bruising and swelling for a time but it will clear up in a week or so.

So would you get one?

On the one hand, women are constantly bombarded with the need to look perfect, to maintain the same figure they had at 21, and to be able to easily compete with the latest Sports Illustrated swimsuit model. It isn’t realistic.

In a day when the average woman wears a size 12 to 14, that perfect size 4 body with those firm D-cup breasts attached is just not realistic for most of us. At least, it isn’t realistic without thousands of dollars worth of “work.”

On the other hand, I don’t know anyone who doesn’t want to look the best that they can. While we may say that we have no desire to look like a Victoria’s Secret model, the truth is that few of us would turn that down if the aforementioned fairy godmother offered the proper magic dust.

As much as women want to evolve past being judged for their looks, there is a small corner in many of our hearts that seeks to achieve the very thing we disdain – the power that comes with beauty and has been wielded by beautiful women for centuries – women from Cleopatra to Beyoncé. Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, exercise just doesn’t give you the results you want.

The question remains. Would you get a mommy makeover? Is it something that you feel would enrich your life? Or, do you feel that it is just another way for society to force women into a china doll mold based on what Hollywood says is beautiful?

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The media lets us know constantly that we are not thin enough, pretty enough, stylish enough, and [fill in the blank] enough to be considered acceptable. Often, to combat that constant feeling of being torn down we turn to mindless activities – television, snacking, or losing ourselves on the Internet.

The thing is? None of these activities are good for us in excess and none of them energize us spiritually, emotionally, mentally, or physically. They may make us feel better in the moment but they usually bring only fleeting relief. Sometimes they may even make our stresses worse in the long run – like when the credit card bill comes in.

Here are five alternatives to veg’ing out when you need to recharge those depleted mom-batteries.

Breathe and Center

It may sound strange but one of the best ways to recharge your entire being is to stretch out on the floor, close your eyes, and breathe rhythmically. Clear your mind but don’t stress over it. Imagine a beautiful beach, a babbling brook, or a windswept mountaintop and mentally put yourself there.

Some people find that soft, soothing instrumental music helps them to relax while others prefer white noise, or nothing at all. Allow your muscles to rest, reaffirm to yourself that you are the best you can be right now and tomorrow you will be even better. Remind yourself that you are taken care of, in no danger, and all is well. You may want to think of special words of encouragement that you have memorized from a poem, song, quote, or your religion.

Spend about 15 minutes in quiet meditation and then slowly open your eyes and sit up. Life looks much better, doesn’t it?

Coffee with a Friend

There are just some friends that seem to be able to say the right thing no matter how we feel. Spending time with them is like taking a mini-vacation. Schedule at least one block of time every month when you can spend time with your friend alone – no children, spouses, or interruptions. If your friend is far away use the magic of the Internet and video chat to spend that quality time together.

Join a Yoga Class

Yoga is especially good for energizing and relaxing your entire being. Check with the local gym, YMCA, or search Google for classes in your area.

Not only does it help you to relax, but the disciplined movements will help to keep your body limber.  That, in turn, will help you to feel better with less aches and pains. Pain, even mild pain, can wear on your nerves without you realizing it and cause you to feel sluggish without knowing why.

Take a Course

Researchers have found that people who exercise their minds by learning new things regularly do not age as quickly as those who are not curious about the world around them.

Take a photography class, a creative writing class, or finish up your degree. Learn to make wine or how to use French culinary techniques. It doesn’t really matter what you learn as long as you keep feeding your mind with interesting knowledge.

Get Physical

No, not exercise – although that is one way to recharge.  Moms seem to constantly nurture their families with physical touch and special care.  Back rubs, kisses, or serving a late night cup of coffee to someone who has a project due – these are all ways that mom says, “I love you.”

Often, the nurturing isn’t reciprocated. By scheduling a massage, facial, mani-pedi, or haircut and style, mom gets gentle, physical touch with no strings attached and no reciprocation needed. It is a comforting way to pamper yourself and be the center of the universe for a little while.

When you return to the real world, you’ll likely feel more in control, more relaxed, and more able to juggle all those hats you wear every day.

There are certainly other ways to relax and recharge – everyone is different. Choose something that you love to do, that energizes you, feeds your innermost self, and indulge yourself regularly. You (and your mental health) are worth it.

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We’d play until someone noticed that it was too dim to see much and the lights were blinking on all over the neighborhood. At that point it was a mad scramble to get in your house before your mom noticed it was dark.

Red Rover was a favorite back then and it provides just as much fun, exercise, and entertainment now! It is a great way to use up the last bit of energy before bed.

You’ll need at least six people, but it’s better if you have more.

How to Play

1. Choose two captains – one for each team.
2. Divide everyone up into two equal teams.
3. Each team forms a line, holds hands, and faces the other team – keep the lines about 20 to 30 feet apart.
4. The captain of the first team calls one player from the other team by saying, “Red Rover, Red Rover, send (player’s name) on over!”
5. The person called has to leave his team and run to the other team, attempting to break the other teams’ chain.
6. If the player doesn’t break the chain he has to become part of the other team.
7. If he does break the chain he can “capture” one of the players whose link was broken and take them back to his team where they become part of that team.
8. Teams take turns calling players from the opposing team until all of the players are on one side.

As with all games that involve physical interaction, you should be careful. Try to have the players all in the same age group and similar weights and sizes. If a large person breaks through the chain with too much force, obviously someone could get hurt. Remember, these games are supposed to be fun!

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She carried her twins to full term – healthy boys – but from the outset it didn’t look like that would be a likely outcome. Hers is not my story to tell, so I can’t go into all of her details. But it got me to thinking about how our different baby experiences unite us on a continuum of shared smiles and tears, hormones and fears.

I had a relatively uneventful pregnancy both times, if you discount the mighty scare of fetal heart valve problems that turned out to be a crappy X-ray. But in an effort to support all you sisters out there who are currently pregnant and need more information on not-so-uneventful pregnancies, here’s one woman’s story, and her book, on her high risk pregnancies.

Kelly Whitehead wrote High-Risk Pregnancy – Why Me? Understanding and Managing a Potential Preterm Pregnancy. While her story is compelling in its own right, the book is also backed by fetal and maternal medicine specialist Dr. Vincenzo Berghella, a top pre-term birth researcher.

High-Risk Pregnancies

By the way, while bed rest may seem an antiquated prescription, every year, 1 million U.S. women with high-risk pregnancies are placed on bed rest to protect their developing babies. Despite that, every year, about 500,000 newborns – one of every eight – arrive too early, according to the Centers for Disease Control.

Enduring a high-risk pregnancy can be an overwhelming experience of stress, fear and unknowns, leading to more questions than answers. Many of these moms adhere to strict regimens of bed rest, face major changes in lifestyle and relationships, and are subject to dozens of doctor visits and even surgery or medications to protect their unborn children.

For them, birth may not be the joy-filled event most families expect. Whitehead knows this all too well. Her first child died following his premature birth. During her next pregnancy, she spent 4½ months in bed worrying over and trying to protect her daughter.

Coping Tips

Whitehead’s book is both a medical reference and provides emotional support for mothers-to-be, with Whitehead providing answers in layman’s terms to the myriad medical questions families have. She also shares coping strategies she discovered, along with what she’s learned through benefit of hindsight, and insights from other mothers.

• Try to enjoy being pregnant. Don’t miss out on this experience because you’re high-risk. Do the normal prego things, even if you have to modify them: Shop online, get a belly cast, shoot expanding-belly photos, and savor those kicks and body changes. Don’t forget or stop dreaming about the actual birth and your desires for what it will be like. I regretted missing out on so much while carrying my daughter. Rather than enjoying the pregnancy, I kept focused on the end and my hope she would survive.

• Don’t let your emotions become your enemy. Say goodbye to guilt – this is not your fault! It’s okay to be bitter, angry and upset at the world, and to hate “normal” pregnant women, but it isn’t going to change anything. So go get mad, yell, and cry, and then move on.

• Pelvic rest sounds easy, but it isn’t. It’s not fun being forced to become a nun, so don’t. There are still ways to enjoy intimacy; you just need to get creative. Think high school – remember how much fun necking was? Try body oil, a massage … whipped cream? Sexy lingerie is still hot, even if you’re pregnant. Flaunt your new assets — they surely went up a cup size or two.

• Educate yourself about your situation. Don’t go reading about every other possible scenario out there; you don’t need to worry about problems that aren’t a likely issue for you.

• Ask and you shall receive. It may sometimes feel as though people have forgotten about you, but the reality is they’re busy and they have no idea what’s it’s like for you. If you want company, reach out and invite someone over.

“Keep your chin up and keep hoping. Healthy babies are born every day to families who’ve walked the same path.” Whitehead says.

A little about her: Kelly Whitehead is a microbiologist who has worked in research and development for more than a decade. She’s also a doula – a woman who provides support during the labor and birth process. She is the mother of Madison, 6, and Drew, 2.

Dr. Vincenzo Berghella is certified in obstetrics/gynecology and maternal-fetal medicine, specializing in high-risk pregnancies. He’s a physician at Thomas Jefferson University Hospital, a professor at Jefferson Medical College in Philadelphia, and a widely published researcher with more than 20 years experience in reproductive health care for women.

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The modern woman likes to have it all. A stable, well afforded life; a beautiful family that includes a marriage that is healthy; kids playing in the soccer field and a career that is flourishing. It means the laundry is put away and the dishes are always getting done. Or at least, that’s the vision. But all too often, there are things suffering. Things like our mental health as well as our physical health. We aren’t balancing it all as well as we should.

Here’s the thing, balance is elusive. It’s impossible. It’s ultimately about prioritizing and while your family and career should be a priority, so should your well being. So below, you will find some tips to work towards factoring a healthier you into the equation.

A Healthier You: 5 Easy Actionable Steps

1. Exercise. I know you’ve heard it before – but it’s truly a necessity, at least some of the time. And I, too, am so guilty of not being consistent on this one. But, each and every time I jump on my elliptical or pop out for a quick once around the neighborhood, I feel invigorated and even more accomplished. It actually helps me to feel as if I’m balancing my day when I fit exercise in. So try to work some type of activity in at some point during your day.

2. Stretch.  If you can’t get the exercising in, then spend a few minutes first thing in the morning and a few minutes right before bed stretching. Stretch out places that feel the most strain throughout your day. If you sit at a desk each day, your back and legs will need the attention. While you’re stretching, center your breathing and try to clear your head for those few minutes to add an additional element of relaxation.

3. Connect. I walked into our local sushi/hibachi grill place the other day to pick up some takeout and I saw no less than ten people looking at their smart phones. There couldn’t have been more than 20-30 people within that entire restaurant – and yet, at least half were centered on their phone instead of on one another. Take the time to connect with someone in your office, in your neighborhood or on the telephone. And when I say telephone, I do not mean texting folks. Really connect, voice to voice contact. It’s important.

4. Pick Up. When my home is full of clutter, it feels like chaos. So each night, right after the kids are settled into bed, I try to do a quick sweep and pick everything up. Sure, I have piles of papers and toys are haphazardly thrown in bins – but it’s organized chaos. By picking up a bit, I get to wake up to some sense of order and it helps calm the world around me.

4. Be Unproductive (at least for a bit). If you’re a busy body like me, set a time each night to turn everything off. Put away the work computers, the smart phones that buzz with to-do list emails and settle the kids into bed. After the picking up is handled, find something that is an indulgence for a while. If nonsense T.V. relaxes you, watch it. If a book takes you away to your happy place, read it. If sitting on your front porch swing with a cup of tea thinking of nothing soothes away the cares of the day – do it. It’s technically still productive in it’s own right – simply because it’s fostering your well being.

Taking care of yourself is not a selfish endeavor. It’s a necessity.

What would you recommend a busy mom do to rejuvenate from the daily grind? 

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I grew up in the decade of Johnson & Johnson baby bath and No More Tears Detangler…….if I try really hard, I can still smell that stuff. Don’t get me wrong, I love the stuff, but after a while a girl just wants something a little different.

Luckily, I was introduced to California Baby products shortly before our youngest daughter was born. Its calming scent was enough to soothe a cranky, pregnant momma and worked like a charm on a cranky, colicky newborn baby too!

A mom-created product, California Baby was born when newly-pregnant Jessica Iclisoy decided she wanted to raise her baby in the most natural and non-toxic environment possible. Her key ingredient, Decyl Polyglucose, is a gentle, biodegradable cleansing and bubbling agent derived from renewable and biodegradable plant sources. Add to that a variety of essential oils and you’ve got a fabulous product.

Our first California Baby product was the Calendula Shampoo and Bodywash from the Aromatherapy line. And because we cloth diaper, we also use the Non-Burning & Calming Diaper Area Wash (instilled with tea tree, calendula, witch hazel and aloe vera and great for cleaning baby’s bottom as well as treating scrapes and cuts) and the Calming Diaper Rash Cream. We love all three products!

California Baby also has products for the home like hand wash, diffusers and essential oils, and air spritzers, as well as products for pregnancy and spending time in the sun (their baby sunscreen rocks!). All-in-all, I’m a huge fan.

I will admit that California Baby can look a bit pricey at the onset, but after you start using the products, you’ll see that a little goes a very long way. In fact, our daughter is now 16 months and we’re just now finishing up our second bottle of both the shampoo/body wash and the diaper area wash. So that should give you an idea of just how long the stuff lasts.

If you want to try the products but aren’t sure you want to invest in full-size bottles, visit the California Baby website and order one of the prepackaged gifts where you can purchase travel sizes of some of their most popular products. Ready to jump right in? You can find California Baby at Target, Whole Foods, and Babies ‘R Us.

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Worried about postpartum depression? Don’t want to take drugs? Try your placenta. Apparently there are postpartum doulas who can process your placenta into placenta pills (shown above). Thank God, because when I read about this at first I had visions of a fillet of placenta, sautéed up with onions and peppers. Eeeeww.

The practice of eating one’s placenta is called placentophagy. Because of its high content of progesterone and numerous vitamins and minerals, the placenta is thought to be quite effective in warding off postpartum depression, helps the uterus shrink back to normal size and stimulates milk production. In fact most mammals eat their placenta, including primates but not many humans. Maybe it’s time to start?

But still…placenta recipes? Oh they are out there. But, to me the pill sounds like such a better way to go. One question…what about the inevitable burp after – you know, like with fish oil pills or some vitamins? Yuck!

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Just back from the monthly visit to the OBGYN to check on the status of the new little one (no, I don’t have an in utero name). We both got a clean bill of health and are both growing right on schedule – whew! With all the morning sickness (so not the right thing to call it!), I was a bit nervous that neither of us were healthy. Luckily, the body knows what it’s doing, even if I don’t have a clue…Mother Nature is brilliant that way.

Anyway, I’m now at the 21 week mark and am so excited/terrified that this is half over. As my due date approaches I’m left wondering how the hell will this all work – the whole 2 kids thing, I mean. Yes, yes in theory I know it does and I’ve seen other people do it. Yet I’m not so certain how we will handle it.

Motherhood is such hard work!

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The U.S. Government’s Health and Human Services department has just released information on the Swine Flu (H1N1) vaccine as well as the influenza vaccine on www.flu.gov. If you have the time, watch their video on the site – it’s extremely informative. Here’s my take on what I learned today.

First, the conversation on the video lumped influenza in with the new strain of flu called Swine Flu (also known as H1N1). I found this confusing. As a pregnant woman, I want to know about the specific H1N1 vaccine – what is the safety of this new vaccine, have there been clinical trials, is it available, what are the risks, what are the side effects?

What I learned was a bit shocking. They’ve tested the other risk groups, but the clinical trials for pregnant woman will start in September when they will test for correct dosage and side effects of the new vaccine. If they don’t know now what these two variables are, how can they safely recommend injecting a vaccine into a body with a developing fetus?

The Department of Health and Human Services, as well as the Center for Disease Control back up their argument for recommending the vaccine by citing the safety and long time use of the influenza vaccine. It has a very good track record for safety and they know exactly how much vaccine to administer. Hence, they “know” the same about the Swine Flu vaccine. I don’t really buy that argument. I’d rather wait to see what the evidence suggests because the H1N1/Swine Flu vaccine is brand new.

Second, it’s not available yet. October is the target release date. Well, OK, that gives me time to research more, so that’s good to know. However, they don’t know if they recommend one double dose or one dose + a booster three weeks later. This seems like very important information to me and it makes me nervous that it is still a question. I’d like to know how much of the substance they plan on putting in my body and, more importantly, that they know which is the best course of action. Again, they’ll know this in October.

Third, what is the official stance on preventative care? It’s so simple and yet I do know it’s effective: wash your hands. Wash your baby’s hands. A lot. OK, check. What else? Not much. For pregnant woman they suggest lots of rest, a healthy diet and in general taking care of yourself. Have these people ever had babies? Rest? Aside from being exhausted from running after a toddler, pregnancy causes insomnia in me so when I should and could and would like to be sleeping, I’m not sleeping. I’m rolling over, tucking pillows in all sorts of places and sighing wistfully, wishing I was asleep.

In case you contract the Swine Flu or even the regular flu, there are steps to take to minimize exposure to others like staying home, wearing a mask when you go out and wash wash wash your hands. The video goes over in much more detail what to do in this scenario and that information is quite helpful.

However there is little information on the virus itself, like how long does it survive on surfaces and, if you suspect that you’ve come in to contact with an infected person, what should you do (besides washing your hands, of course)? I’m talking about do you change clothes, wash your clothes immediately, use anything other than detergent and hot water – what?

Lastly, there is a separate page detailing what pregnant women should know about H1N1 or the Swine Flu. I’d highly recommend reading it HERE.

I don’t want to give the wrong impression – I’m for vaccinations as an abstract thought. I believe our society has benefited greatly heath-wise from vaccinations. I got the flu vaccination during my first pregnancy and will more than likely get vaccinated for influenza again. I’m just not so sure about H1N1 and the regular flu vaccine doesn’t cover Swine Flu.

Of course, on the flip side of the vaccination debate there is the risk of actually contracting the Swine Flu. Sure, I can assume I won’t get sick, but how do I know? And, if I do get sick, how bad will that be for me, my developing baby, my toddler, my husband, my mother-in-law, my friends. I mean, come on! I don’t want to even think about that.

So, while more information is great, I feel very strongly that this decision is best discussed with my OBGYN in the coming months. She knows me, my baby and my toddler. She knows the science behind the vaccine. She can help me understand what will be best for my family. I can only urge that you, as a parent, learn as much as you can and then discuss both vaccines with your doctor and your child’s doctor. The www.flu.gov site is a good place to start.

I saw this back to school post and thought I’d pass it along. While I’m not the type of mom who thinks of sending little notes in lunchboxes, I love the idea of being able to do it so quickly and easily. These little lunchbox lovies are simply adorable and seem rather quick. And, if they encourage healthy eating, I’m all for it!

And by the way, the blog that I saw them on, alphamom.com, is a great blog to keep an eye on.

I’ve been struggling with nutrition as of late. Since becoming pregnant and having all sorts of aversions to food and, well, the entire kitchen, I’ve noticed that I’ve let my toddler’s food choices slip from nutritious to easy to make. Now I’m not saying that things that are easy to make are inherently not nutritious, but it seems like a disproportionate number of quick options are salty or sweet, but not necessarily full of nutrients.

And by nutrients, do I mean fat? Am I alone here in wondering what role fat should play in a child’s nutrition? I think not.

Here is a really interesting blog post that ties nutrition and fat intake (or rather, the lack thereof) to the increased “diagnosis” of ADD/ADHD. I use the quotes (I wish I could use air quotes) to emphasize the difference between the medical diagnosis of a real issue with the catch-all phrase ADD/ADHD to describe all sorts of behavior problems without truly understanding the underlying cause. I realize there is a vast and growing difference.

Back to my point. I’m usually pressed for time in the evenings – you know that witching hour that is dinner, bath, and bed-time. Couple that with a distinct desire to NOT open the fridge and I’ve started throwing together meals as quickly and painlessly as possible. Some days are better, like when I actually make something home-made that includes all the food groups (like easy enchiladas!). But some days are just plain bad.

And lunches – forget about it! Gone are the days of grilled cheese or peanut butter sandwiches. I usually throw some lunchmeat and Pirate booty and peas (if I have some) on her plate and watch her eat it up! My goal has changed from nutrition to feeding her something she will actually eat so we can get out the door to go to the playground. And once there, what do I give her? Crackers. Who have I become?

It’s not that I yearn for the time to fix her homemade granola bars, slow cooked oatmeal or other such treats. Even if I had the time I wouldn’t choose to spend it in the kitchen like that. No, what I need is healthy foods that are good (read: easy, quick AND nutritious) to eat.

Here’s what I’ve come up with as far as snacks go, but I’d love suggestions. The list is short.

Hard boiled eggs: easy and portable, too
Cheese sticks: these had been a staple, but have fallen out of favor. (Note to self: reintroduce)
Raisins (or other dried fruit): sweet and natural
Yogurt
Almonds: a new addition as they are a choking hazard…I break them in half

As I find more healthy toddler foods, I’ll post them.

OMG! When thinking about the whole idea of having a second child, my husband and I forgot a number of crucial data points, which, unfortunately, have now reared their ugly heads. First, exhaustion. I mean, our toddler (20 months, now) is so precocious – she’s in to everything.

It’s fun, at times, to catch her studying how a chip clip works for minutes upon minutes, and I realize the wonder that has yet to unfold before her. Then, when she decides to remove each and every item from the pantry while I’m loading the dishwasher, it’s not so fun.

Just when I think I’ve gotten the house straightened up, I turn around to find hurricane Sophie has blown through, leaving bits of paper, stuffed animals and books strewn about. Everywhere. Now, add to that the exhaustion that comes with breeding a baby and you see where things get tough.

I never guessed that toddler-hood would require so much of my waning energy when I thought about getting pregnant. I based my decision on the facts I had at the time – little, docile 14-15 month old teetering from couch to chair back to couch. That was fun to watch, and I could do it sitting down!

Then, let’s address the whole morning sickness cover-up. I mean, the first time I was pregnant I was sick straight through, morning till night. No relief. Of course, on looking back I *remembered* it as being not so bad. When I had to lay down, I did. When I had to take it slow, I did. When I had to run to the bathroom (or pick up the nearest bucket), I did.

Oh oh, not so lucky this time…hormones are a wonderful curse – they cause all sorts of memory loss that, let’s be frank, is the only reason humans have continued to reproduce. If we actually remembered the hell that is pregnancy and childbirth, we, as intelligent, liberated women would NEVER choose to do it again. But, magically, we forget. At least I did.

Now, when I have have to puke (read: all day long) I can’t just lay down and bury my head…I have to *play* with my little one. Granted, no one watching me do this would regard it as playing for either adult or child, more like mild torture for both parties. But, hey, I do my best to at least throw up discreetly into a plastic baggie behind my back.

There is more – trust me – there is more, but full on complaining won’t get me anywhere. Although, a little venting is always good for the soul. Suffice it to say, if I knew then (ok, remembered) what I know now, my daughter would be a happy, well attended only child. That’s not to say I’m not looking forward to this little baby arriving – I am only too happy to get the tiny little thing out of my body and safely in to this world…it’s just that sometimes I wish I could skip the whole pregnancy part.

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At less that two years old, my daughter, who sees me and my husband brushing our teeth each morning (she’s usually asleep by the time we do it at night) has taken a keen interest in the toothbrush.  On a recent playdate, she even convinced her friend to join in on the fun.

Since we’re all about Montessori in this house, I have taken her cue and begun teaching her about personal grooming habits: specifically brushing her teeth.  According to Maria Montessori, children learn best when they are ready to learn the lesson in front of them.  Their readiness is usually a sign that they feel some sense of control over what and how they will learn.  Or maybe it’s the control that leads to the readiness.  Children have, what Montessori termed, an “absorbent mind” and when the mind is ready, learning becomes more of an organic *knowing* rather than a chore.  Think of it as an exploratory environment.

We’ve been trying to get Sophie used to brushing for some time now, but only recently has she shown any real interest. I’d say she’s still *tolerant* of the nightly brushing but it’s during the day when she really just won’t let go of the thing.  I do hope this infatuation with the toothbrush stays with her.

The next lesson: potty training as her new favorite word is “poopy.”